Dear Girl – Happy does exist.

Why does it seem like the world just pretends to be happy these days? Is happy the new fake? Where did this ‘Happy’ go anyway?

Why does it feel like most girls have this ravaging battle that tears them up inside?images

STOP!! Stop being unhappy. You are perfect as you are. It starts with you. Stop hating your body. Worship it instead. Love your face. Embrace your curves – or lack of them. Don’t let anybody make you feel inferior! Photoshop made nobody feel perfect after all!!

Just feel good about yourself. Because you are special. And nobody can change that.

Now find somebody to share this happiness with. Remember you get into a relationship to be happy. To laugh. To make memories. Not to be upset or cry or argue all the time. If he makes you feel special all the time – then what have you to loose? Marry him anyway!! Don’t give up on your self-respect. Because thats what makes you who you are. Give that relation your all.

And if he cheats on you – then don’t be afraid to walk away. Because real men are faithful. Because a real man will inspire you to do things you would never have imagined you could do. Because a real man will allow you to express your deepest emotions without fear. He will make you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. He will empower you to be confident and invincible.

Because a real man will make you his ideal woman. He will respect you enough to never truly secretly fantasize about women pornstars. He knows that your body is a temple. And he respects that.

Because a real man NEVER hides. He never hides feelings or thoughts. He bares them all with you. Because he believes in you. Because you are special. Yes -You are special.

And as Girl Code No #117 goes – “Cheating isn’t always flirting, kissing or touching. If you gotta delete text messages or phone calls from your phone, then you’re already cheating!” 

After all, no girl deserves a man who is Faithful on the outside, yet cheating in their Inbox!!

Enough said!!

And for crying out loud – do not suck the soul out of your life yet! Be a vibrant, goal-oriented woman ( So much more appealing than a woman who sits around and waits for a Man to validate her existence!)

Decide what matters the most to you and do it.

Listen to the music and dance to the beat. Better still – bring out your dancing heels – because Life is one big dance floor!

Follow your inspirations and never – never be afraid to be yourself. And don’t forget – be the girl that can be trusted on. That girl will go a long way!

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Just Live a Life that matters. Believe in yourself.

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Never say Never

Never believe that the Dream you dream is too big. Never crush it bit by bit in a frenzied hurry. Never let any one else’s opinion outshine your dream. Because you – yes you – are meant to shine!

Everybody has their own Dream. Everybody deserves a lift now and again. There is after all enough ‘shine’ for each and every one of us!

Do what makes you happy – with whoever makes you happy.

If he genuinely makes you happy, If he makes you Laugh, If he knows how to make a drab day fab – Tell him. Marry Him. Be with him. Do what ever it takes to claim what you genuinely deserve. Smudged mascaras and panda eyes just don’t do it anymore!

If you need a holiday – take one. See the world. Breathe the cultures. Write about them. Be spontaneous. Be fun – don’t for crying out out – don’t be trapped in your own little world! This globe – it has things to offer beyond your imagination. Movie under the stars? Yes these things do happen! Go out there!

If drinking plain water tickles your fancy – then by all means go for that. Having wines and fancy cocktails will rock all boats but yours. And those in my opinion, are all the wrong boats anyway!!

Do exactly what makes you happy. And that is the bottom line.

We wait for forever for the right person. For the right time. For the right bunch of flowers. But just what is the right time? How do you define how right ‘right’ is?

Problem is we always undermine our potential for greatness.We believe good is okay, when we can be great. We settle on anything when life has so much more to offer us.

Happy after all is good – But living with a passion – that dear reader – that is the ultimate winner.

Have Hope instead of Fear. Because that is a life worth living!

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x x x

Sometimes..

Sometimes you come across an old message – and you realise how much you miss that person.. Sometimes you smell a scent and you remember the scent etched somewhere in your memory. Sometimes you go to a place..and it just doesn’t feel complete enough this time round.

Sometimes you walk through the park , and you remember a sudden joke. You smile to yourself. A memory.

Sometimes you look at an old picture. Flashback of the moment it was captured. Memory.

Sometimes you taste the untoasted sandwich and it doesn’t taste as good anymore. Memory

This memory – Will it go? Should it go?

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I think not. Anything that makes you smile – past or present, should be held on to. But then again – that’s what i think.

Its amazing what these memories can do. They can make you. They can break you. Some memories are as beautiful as they get. Some you will never have imagined. Some hurt – but these ones, let them fade away. Slowly.

And then sometimes..In the middle of nowhere, you look up and you realise that the memory..the scent..the sound..they were beautiful. And that this memory is something you wouldn’t change for the world. That it sparks up a glow in your heart every once in a while. That this memory – found itself in some corner of your soul. All but just for you.

Because every memory has some sort of purpose. It shapes us. It makes us who we are today.

After all,most things don’t last forever- but some things do.Like a good song..Or a good book..Or a good memory you can take out and unfold in your darkest of times.

x X x

 

 

Why Travelling the world is now a priority.

Travelling might be expensive. It might even get you the unsettled name.It might be too much for a person who sees nothing beyond the career horizon. But it is real. It is as real as anything else you have ever wanted.

 But for the typical person – it is a misfit. It is anything but real. For the wanderluster – it  means the world. Here’s why:

1. To know yourself, you need to be free. You need to see the world beyond your tiny stagnant social life. Theres only one way of knowing what you can do- through the experiences you have with others. Yes that hippie you met on the bus ride to Bolivia? Yes she has the most amazing mind blowing stories to tell you. And that 2am walk on some exotic beach? Probably the most peaceful thing you have done in a while!

2. When you seek for adventure, every force on your travel gives in to you. You see a beauty that you never thought of. You open your imagination to the unknown. To adventures and risks galore. You learn to trust. And before you know it – you learn to believe in yourself. And then tear away the stereotype and learn to believe in others too. 

3. You let go of your materialistic nature. The only belongings you do have, are the ones you travelled with. That gift your girlfriend never bought you-Old news!! The only things that truly do matter are the memories you carry – and you have them right there in your grey matter. Each and every one of them. Walking treasure? Yes – now you realise!

4.You are going to meet alot of people. A hell load of people! You will be in touch with the reality that yes – normal people is just a word. Most people fall out of that box. They fall in any other category but normal. And then suddenly that hollywood conceived concept that perfection means dotted i’s and unsmudged eyeliner fades away. 

5.And this leads you to accept yourself for who you are. And it leads you to be who you want to be. It strips off all those false layers and lets you be free. It makes you realise you are as short as you cap yourself to be. It makes you understand that yes – women too do have a moustache- don’t we ask for equality anyway? 

6.After burning your days out hour after hour in a job you most probably are now bored at – in a place you honestly have become way too comfortable in – this break – this travel bug spices things up. Suddenly you appreciate the tea girl a little more. Suddenly your paycheck becomes much more than bills. Suddenly, you value those little things that most people still cry about

7. If you  dont do the things you love now – if you dont have the money or the time, how in heavens name is that going to happen 10 kids later??

8. For all its worth, Travelling is fun!! Period!!

 

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I rest my case..x x

 

Leave her..Or Love her.

Leave her if you feel she isn’t the one. If you feel she cannot make sense of your male ego. If she honestly irritates the living daylights out of you. If she would make a better friend than the mother of your kids – Leave her. 

But, if she fits into your life like you were soulmates reunited from a past life- if she believes so strongly in you with a faith you cannot comprehend, If she annoys the sleep out of you but ever so gently stands by you the next morning- then Love her.

Love her because she understands a part of you that you yourself cannot express. Love her because even though she drives you out of the levels of normal sanity, she still adores you and she isn’t afraid to show it. 

Love her because of that occasional streak of jealousy you unexpectedly catch on her face- she is after all just but human. Adore her because she isn’t out to impress you. She is out to keep you. She will run the kitchen in sweat pants and messy slept in hair – yes – she did this for you.

Love her because you can see her in your future. Love her because you have her. Love her because she too might have a beautifully broken past- just like you. It is after all two broken souls who can fix each other.

Love her – and love her deeply. Open up to her. Slowly, feeling by feeling, open up your doors to her. Let her be the carrier of your heart. Of your soul. Let her into your every secret. Your every scar. Your every cry. Love her not because of who you are – but love her because of you are when you are with her.

And if after all that you still can’t love her – Then leave. Not understanding a girl is deeper than you realize. It destroys her outlook on love, her future in the relationship and her peace within herself. By all means leave her.

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Travel Bug!

The year started off with some more globe trotting. A series of fantastic middle east culture and tones of different experiences – a vibrant continent with its rich cultures and affluent ways of life.

Sunsets experienced at different altitudes, and century-old traditions on ground zero. A fantastic end to being smitten by the travel bug!

A month and a half into the new year – I pat myself for not having any of those cringeworthy resolutions. Instead i smile at the hard work that earned me those travels that I can take to the grave with me.Image

Well, the travelling made me see just how ignorant we are to the world around us. We seem to be wrapped up in this bubble that has made us a little too comfortable for our own good. We are oblivious to the fact that we live cocooned in this life – with mere glimpses to the lifestyles around us.

Whatever happened to being free-spirited? A lot of our species seems to have lost that – entwined in the daily shenanigans that life brings along. We need to go out there more often. We need to meet other people- people who show you that your problems are only but a percent of the sorrow in this world. 

 

Look at the different ways of doing things. Learn something new. Kick out an old habit and carry on board something fresh. Try swimming in a different ocean. Try experiencing different cuisines. Feel free as you move around. Gain back your lost momentum as you swirl through the miles.

Watch people living their lives. In reflection, watch your own life as if on slow-mo. And then capture it all. It’s a keepsake that no soul can rob you of.

Sometimes we work too hard – don’t get me wrong – you are only going to see the world if you do work hard! But yes- work hard enough and know where to draw the line. Travel a little more – get out of the safety bubble you’ve known forever. Experience a different side of the creation and find your safe haven in it.

Be free whilst doing this and find a place that gives you 48 hours in 24. Believe you me – it exists. You just have to look for it whole heartedly.

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So go on – bring out the passport and travel a little. You will not be disappointed.

As I look forward to my next travel, take time to find your own!