Marry a girl who Travels.Now.

You will know her when you see her. You will either love her, Or you will hate her. There is no in between here.

If you hate her, you need not read this. But if you Love her – then know that this might be the simplest kind of Love ever.

1. Marry her because it really is the simplest form of Love ever. Her expectations of you aren’t high end dinner dates or 5 star getaways. Her love will be the love of sleeping on the African Soil. It will come as backpacking the Middle East. She doesn’t even want Gucci handbags or Prada Shoes. Get her a budget ticket to anywhere on the Planet and you will be her Hero for eternity. Yes – She will put you on a pedestal and worship you! Guaranteed.

2. Marry her because she is fun. And always will be. She will crave new experiences. Both on her travels and with you. She will never be the predictable sort who bogs you down in a mundane lifestyle. She will always crave new. And the best bit – she will want to share it all with you.

3. Marry her because it isn’t her thing to doll up and attend your fancy functions. But she will try it just for you. She will goof up in her unworn stillettos, because she knows it matters to you. And after that, she will go back to her normal self. Shorts. ti-shirts. Make-up free. Because she is comfortable  – her brain is a buzz of real beauty – the kind that doesnt get washed away or wrinkled with age.

4.Marry her because she will not settle for mediocre. She knows there is too much out there to just settle for little nothings. She knows what she wants – and goes for it. She is decisive. And nothing is sexier than an independent, decisive woman.

5. And when she pitches her own tent and budgets her own trip? Marry her. Marry her because she will know how to run the household show. Because she can keep home like its her Passport. Safe and sound.

6. Marry her because she will love people. She appreciates diversity. She loves the look of fellow wanderers. She will not settle for people who bore her. She will not waste her time around those who add nothing to her perception of beauty of the world.

7. Marry her because she takes months to save up to see a fraction of the earth. And nothing could make her happier. Because she understands why she works so hard. To allow her to see the world. She makes time for it. Because she knows that work will stop for nobody. Because she knows she will not live up to infinity.

8. And that girl – she will have the best stories to put you to sleep. You will watch your children’s eyes light up with her stories. You will see them bonding for hours listening to tales about places they have never imagined existed. And you will fall in love with her again.

9. Marry her because she will never forget you. She will never go alone, because she can’t wait to share the world with you. She will throw up a tantrum until you go with her – because she knows you deserve experiences as beautiful as yourself. Because just as she can’t wait to see a new place, she can’t wait to show you off to the world. Because you embrace her passions. You fill her up. And the best she can do is fill you up in return.

10. Marry her because she knows the beauty in this world. She will be appreciative of the little notes you leave her besides her breakfast plate.She will leave your Valentines Day card on her bedside for months – until the next card arrives – because she knows you are part of her journey. A journey she will not leave unexplored.

And finally – remember – she is worth it – Because she has met so  many different people, and been to so many different places. She could have chosen anyone from her map – but she chose you. Because when she says she loves you – then there must be something special there.

Match her excitement. All she wants is someone to share this with.

Marry her.

Because that’s what a girl who loves to travel does. She loves to see the world. Preferably with you.

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Discover.A.Little.More

Looking back – the moments that I can intimately remember – are the ones where I was away from my comfort zone. When I was travelling parts of the world yet unknown by me.

I still remember the taste of the air. I still remember the saltiness of the sea. I remember the cold of the mountain snow. The colours of the tropical island birds. I remember the multicultural food palette I developed. I remember the fiery wildlife. The skies. The sunsets. The people.Travel

Yes -those are the memories that I take to my grave. Because those are the memories that matter most – to me at least.

This world has so much to offer – yet we stay cocooned in our safety zones. We fill our days with busy work schedules, and give but an hour or two to wind down before we hit the bed. Don’t get me wrong – you need to work to finance that travel!! But prioritize.

What use are the $$$ if you truly can’t enjoy the fruit of all the slogging? What will you remember on your deathbed? The hundreds of contracts you won..or the finer places that changed your perception of beauty? As a fine wise man who took me for dinner 2 nights ago said – “We save and save and then die rich.” Point made.

Choice is yours!!

Because travelling allows you to see the world as it is – to widen your self-glorified perception. It helps you discover who you are. It helps you run away from whatever it is that threatens to hold you down. It helps you connect with people on a similar level. You meet strangers. Strangers who understand you and become a part of you. You learn to be a people’s person. you learn to make friends. You learn to let go off attachments. It’s like a soul clean up really!

Because thats what travelling does- it opens up a whole new world to you.

And honestly it’s not that difficult! Later never happens. Life goes on. It will not stop for your travels. Never has – Never will.

When you are out counting your shares on the stock market – she is counting the stars in the night sky. She will always be richer. When you are showing off your new 4-wheeler, she is showing off her postcards from her latest travel. When you are busy making your life even more hectic – her mind is brewing up her next adventure. Whilst you layer up that make-up – he is adoring his sun-kissed skin.

My question is  why not now? Why? What are you waiting for? Life to happen? Because that it will. Tomorrow you will graduate and get a  job – no time you say? Then you will get married and settle in – do i hear busy again? Then comes along domestic duties..a baby or two..still busy? See those lil ones off school – university them – no money? Then finally marry them away – retire from your job – now you have all the time to see the world.But guess what? Your bones are old and brittle. You can’t climb up Everest. Your fragile skin can’t take the Caribbean heat. Suddenly – you realise your palm is very empty. And you realise how long you waited.

Don’t let anyone stop you. Your deathbed doesn’t have place for regrets of another.

So open your maps – go out there. And if you are lucky – find someone as mad as you to take with you. A travel shared is a travel treasured.

Remember – the world is a book.Those who do not travel read only one page.

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Why Travelling the world is now a priority.

Travelling might be expensive. It might even get you the unsettled name.It might be too much for a person who sees nothing beyond the career horizon. But it is real. It is as real as anything else you have ever wanted.

 But for the typical person – it is a misfit. It is anything but real. For the wanderluster – it  means the world. Here’s why:

1. To know yourself, you need to be free. You need to see the world beyond your tiny stagnant social life. Theres only one way of knowing what you can do- through the experiences you have with others. Yes that hippie you met on the bus ride to Bolivia? Yes she has the most amazing mind blowing stories to tell you. And that 2am walk on some exotic beach? Probably the most peaceful thing you have done in a while!

2. When you seek for adventure, every force on your travel gives in to you. You see a beauty that you never thought of. You open your imagination to the unknown. To adventures and risks galore. You learn to trust. And before you know it – you learn to believe in yourself. And then tear away the stereotype and learn to believe in others too. 

3. You let go of your materialistic nature. The only belongings you do have, are the ones you travelled with. That gift your girlfriend never bought you-Old news!! The only things that truly do matter are the memories you carry – and you have them right there in your grey matter. Each and every one of them. Walking treasure? Yes – now you realise!

4.You are going to meet alot of people. A hell load of people! You will be in touch with the reality that yes – normal people is just a word. Most people fall out of that box. They fall in any other category but normal. And then suddenly that hollywood conceived concept that perfection means dotted i’s and unsmudged eyeliner fades away. 

5.And this leads you to accept yourself for who you are. And it leads you to be who you want to be. It strips off all those false layers and lets you be free. It makes you realise you are as short as you cap yourself to be. It makes you understand that yes – women too do have a moustache- don’t we ask for equality anyway? 

6.After burning your days out hour after hour in a job you most probably are now bored at – in a place you honestly have become way too comfortable in – this break – this travel bug spices things up. Suddenly you appreciate the tea girl a little more. Suddenly your paycheck becomes much more than bills. Suddenly, you value those little things that most people still cry about

7. If you  dont do the things you love now – if you dont have the money or the time, how in heavens name is that going to happen 10 kids later??

8. For all its worth, Travelling is fun!! Period!!

 

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I rest my case..x x

 

Travel Bug!

The year started off with some more globe trotting. A series of fantastic middle east culture and tones of different experiences – a vibrant continent with its rich cultures and affluent ways of life.

Sunsets experienced at different altitudes, and century-old traditions on ground zero. A fantastic end to being smitten by the travel bug!

A month and a half into the new year – I pat myself for not having any of those cringeworthy resolutions. Instead i smile at the hard work that earned me those travels that I can take to the grave with me.Image

Well, the travelling made me see just how ignorant we are to the world around us. We seem to be wrapped up in this bubble that has made us a little too comfortable for our own good. We are oblivious to the fact that we live cocooned in this life – with mere glimpses to the lifestyles around us.

Whatever happened to being free-spirited? A lot of our species seems to have lost that – entwined in the daily shenanigans that life brings along. We need to go out there more often. We need to meet other people- people who show you that your problems are only but a percent of the sorrow in this world. 

 

Look at the different ways of doing things. Learn something new. Kick out an old habit and carry on board something fresh. Try swimming in a different ocean. Try experiencing different cuisines. Feel free as you move around. Gain back your lost momentum as you swirl through the miles.

Watch people living their lives. In reflection, watch your own life as if on slow-mo. And then capture it all. It’s a keepsake that no soul can rob you of.

Sometimes we work too hard – don’t get me wrong – you are only going to see the world if you do work hard! But yes- work hard enough and know where to draw the line. Travel a little more – get out of the safety bubble you’ve known forever. Experience a different side of the creation and find your safe haven in it.

Be free whilst doing this and find a place that gives you 48 hours in 24. Believe you me – it exists. You just have to look for it whole heartedly.

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So go on – bring out the passport and travel a little. You will not be disappointed.

As I look forward to my next travel, take time to find your own!

Fare – thee – well 2013..!

In a few hours another year will come to an end. A year that has given me more ups than downs.  A year that has seen me achieve milestones. A year that has taken me places.

Looking back, there are a few things I would have done differently. But more importantly this is me reflecting on how my year went.

This year saw me becoming an ACCA Affiliate. A long struggle and a tonne of determination paved the way to this accomplishment. It was a feeling like no other!!

This year my dreams with my better half took the first step forward on our journey to our big day.  It was a day of family chatter and laughter as love filled the air.

This was a year that I had decided I would nurture my love for travelling in. 2013 saw me travelling widely – within the country and Imageinternationally. I visited countrysides and green grasslands. Playing with the farm animals and watching massive dairy farming. 

It saw me visit parts of the country where beauty lay hidden in the folds of fine caverns and deep valleys. It saw me visit lakes and rivers in search of some fine reflection time.  It took me to fine wagon stays and tree houses. It showed off wooden walk bridges and fine masai décor. It showed me craters and viewpoints; cobwebbed makuti thatched huts and dropdown pools.20131026_153500

 

This year I had vowed to travel widely. Earlier this year armed with a great bunch of friends, saw me In Tanzania – our neighboring country. The trip was fun filled and a look into diverse cultures and lifestyles.

I ended 2013 with a bang visiting Dubai in the lovely United Arab Emirates. I havnt had a chance to write on this magnifique trip – one thing on my to-do-list in 2014!

 

Dubai proved to be a totally different experience. ImageIt was exotic, fun filled and a super start to some globe trotting that I plan to venture into.

Dusty desert safaris, Sharks- yes Sharks!! Penguins in this hot country, Midnight Shopping, Classy Cleopatras style dhow cruise dinners, palm trees upon palm trees..rich heritage – Splendid!!!!

 

 

The year also let me experience thousands of places of fine dining. With my passion for food and my better half’s enthusiasm, there was no better end to our weekly travels!

I ended the year well birthdaying it out in the midst of nowhere- Just basking in the wild – putting a classy end to my year of travel.IMG-20131226-WA0006

2014 – I have but not any resolutions for you. Resolutions I believe are not for me. All I promise is to keep the fire alive. To travel even more diversely than 2013. To visit newer places and experience diverse cultures. To be a part of other worlds. To see a few more countries. To celebrate weekends lost in the heritage of our own country.

As I sit back and reflect through what is left of the year, I believe this new year will offer us some more. Discover. Love. Travel.

My dream or Yours?

“There is a tide in the affairs of men, which taken at the flood, leads on to fortune. Omitted, all the voyage of their life is bound in shallows and in miseries. On such a full sea are we now afloat. And we must take the current when it serves, or lose our ventures.”  ~ William Shakespeare.Image

And lose our ventures indeed.

We dream and we fly high – we achieve and we set new dreams. We fall flat sometimes but we have to pick ourselves, shake off the dust and get back into the game.

Yet sometimes we leave our dreams in the hands of others – for them to make it happen. Why, I ask?  Why would you dream so high – in complete detail only to let your dreams fall flat through the fingers of another?

Why may I ask would you not try to make your dream a reality? Why does your dream depend on timings and conveniences of others? If it is your dream – your own magical creation conjured up in the folds of life – why oh why does it depend on the other?

I will never understand. I will not try.

Perhaps it is how we want to share our dreams- perhaps it is who we want to share these dreams with. Perhaps it is those fingers that drop your dreams that you really want.. Perhaps – perhaps – perhaps!!

But its your dream- and you have got to live it. Find a person who cares about your dream – and then share it with them.

But never – never let your dream die. For when it dies – you stop believing. You stop dreaming. And ultimately everything around you becomes a bore.

If you want to travel somewhere – go – see the world. Seek your comfort in tales around bonefires and starry skies.

If you want to be someone – set your mark and go for it.

If you want to get married- go – get married in style and have a fairytale wedding.

Whatever it is you want – give it a shot. Don’t let your dreams fall through anothers hands. They’re your dreams for a reason.

Dare to believe..x x x

A Tanzanian safari – The Crossover from Kenya

Last week found me traveling the East African side of the continent. As a child, i believed you needed to know your own country first, and then your neighbours, a little bit more about the rest of your continent before globe trotting!!

So here i was – bags packed, passport in pocket on my way to make this dream bear fruit.

Kenya is a beautiful country- unlike anything i presume i will ever see. It is after all Home to me. The countryside stretched on for miles and miles, dwindling in the first Easter rays- colluding into a wintry affair amidst misty clouds and ending up pierced in the dawning African sun.

The roads stretched on and on- until we reached the Kenya – Tanzania border. Captivating. The hills on the right felt like they were picked right out of the oriental Kashmir border. The exit from my motherland a flurry of trucks and people bustling in and out of the countries.

Walking on to no-man-land was somewhat mixed up. I never did expect so much confusion, i never did expect so much commotion. I never did expect it to look so normal- but yet that was it. So much for my flowery expectations!

And then there was the board.

Welcome to Tanzania

” You are now entering Tanzania. Welcome.”

It didn’t get any better. There i was finally in Eastern Africa. Ready to explore another country.

You wouldn’t expect much difference in a country so close. Its somewhat like having a person so close to your heart- like your better half and feeling like you are so alike- but when the reality sets in – its the similarity in the differences that actually bind your relation together. So here i was in Tanzania – i could already feel the difference.

Sweeter Swahili- more complicated Swahili compared to our Kenyan one. Polite tones.

“Naomba” ….. “Tafadhali” …..You will not go anywhere without these 2 words! Believe you me- the lady in the bus almost got ignored on alighting for not using these words. Sigh!! Beautiful manners fellow Africans!! But here in Kenya- that shall never work- sadly!!

What surprised me the most – was the nature of their roads. Stretching out for miles and  miles in perfection. Straight. It was different. I was so used to the Kenyan twists and turns, bumps and potholes- this felt new! Almost surreal.

It got me thinking. You think you know a country- like you think u know a person. but the diversity within a person can be so vast- and you can but just accept it. That when you accept the reality of things – it feels so much better. You can appreciate it for what it is and not what you want. You discover something different from what you were used too.

And that this difference is what makes 2 individuals come together. To forge a bond and merge as neighbours. To feel alive in either country – yet strangers at each others borders.

All said and done- there lay my passport stamped haphazardly yet distinctly –

Exit Kenya. Entry Tanzania.

Hello Tz!!

And that folks- was the beginning of a lovely Easter Holiday!!

Keep reading as i write about the rest of this serene get away!!!

x x x